I am a people pleaser through and through. I rarely say no things I do not want to do. If I do say no I am riddled with anxiety, thinking that I have let people down or that I am not a good friend. But I also know that they don’t think that.
This past week I went M.I.A on here and there isn’t a specific reason why besides just wanting a break. But at the same time, I felt guilty. I could have easily written some posts but instead I chose not to simply because I wasn’t in the mood. It was another moment where I felt like I had let people down even though I know I had not.
When we put ourselves last time and time again. It drains us- burns us out. Sometimes you need to be selfish as much as you are selfless.
I have been trying to make myself a priority recently and it is a challenge. Learning how to say no to things I do not want to do is so hard. But I know that my mental health, my interests, wants, and needs are also valid.
This may sound like a somber post, but I promise it is not. Every once and a while we need a reminder to put ourselves first and to enjoy life the way we want to. I am still learning on how to make myself a priority and I know I will be for a while.
How is everyone doing? And maybe let me know one thing you’re going to do for yourself this week.
Thanks for reading!
Megan
I totally get that feeling of wanting to do things for others at the cost of our own happiness. But that’s slowly changing the more I focus on expecting hard things from myself.
Now, whenever I take the steps to achieve my life’s goals (such as finishing my next novel or exercising), I actually build the self-confidence to not others’ needs above my own. Anyway, wishing you the best with your journey!
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That is some helpful advice. I will have to remember this for the future. Thank you!!
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Actually we need to love ourselves first ,we need to know what our mind wants?And of course sometimes we need to become selfish for our good. Well expressed 😊😊😊🌹!
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Yes, very true. Thank you!
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🤗👌🌹❤️🍫🍭🎉🌸My pleasure. God bless you 🙂🙂
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Looking forward to being off!! Seeing friends from a safe distance 🙂
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Being off sounds really nice! I hope you have a great and safe time!! 😊
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Thanks for the beautiful reminder. We all need to prioritise ourselves every now and then. Beautiful! 👌
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